As I've gotten older I recognize that the mass majority weren't friends but more like acquaintances. People that were in my life for a reason or a season. We may have had lots of friendly times and some great memories but we weren't really friends. Time went on and we drifted apart. Maybe because of moving away or going off to different schools, or embarking on new journeys in life like starting a family/marriage or career or just different choosing different paths based on our goals or experiences.
I find myself reminiscing on my youth and how it was so easy to meet new people and just hang out or explore and become friends. I love being around people but as an adult I've become so shy and kind of anti-social at times. I may have gone through a strange period where I'm more apprehensive opening up to new people. I know it all started when my ex-husband and I moved to DC. As a "hippie" of sorts I found it difficult to find folks that I could relate to and had similar interests. I met many people through work as a make-up artist and mobile spa therapist but those were just clients or people I knew from the industry. I had such a hard time making friends I even put an ad on Craigslist in the Strictly Platonic section. That didn't go so well because too many times the women looking responding didn't have the best intentions. My bad, there I go giving people the benefit of the doubt. Geez...
When I studied at The Conservatory, I finally felt like I was among my kind; the artsy, quirky, lively types. I had some great experiences and made some real connections with some people during that time. I would say roughly in the 6 years that I lived in the DMV I attempted to cultivate at least 20 real friendships and out of them all I have only been in active contact (up to this day) with only one of them, which I can confidently say that she's a true friend. As for the others, not so much. Facebook does not count. I'm talking phone conversations, visits, letters, etc. I'm not complaining, just observing. Now, like then, all I've ever wanted was good times, good vibes and good friends that last.
Presently, I'm happy that I can count on one hand a solid tribe of fabulous sistergirlfriends and on the other a band of awesome homeboys. Some of which have been in my life for decades and others that have only been in my life for a short period. No matter the time length, I know that they have my back, are ride-or-die and love me to pieces and I, them. The great thing is even if we haven't spent a lot of time together or talked in a while there are no hard feelings and we can pick up where we left off. With age and time comes wisdom. It's not at all about quantity, but about quality.
Having quality relationships in your life is vital to happiness and success. If you and your tribe work on fostering positive, loving, supportive relationships everyone thrives and so do your extended relationships with others. My friends are my extended family and I'm so thankful for them and want to show some love and give a shout out to them: I love you all so much! You've added so much to my life. You've healed my heart, mind and body from sickness and I just want to say thank you! THANK YOU!
Much love, many blessings.
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